Mental health care to help get unstuck


This post comes from Talkspace, an online and mobile therapy company.

Sometimes, no matter how hard or what we try, we find ourselves repeating behaviors that aren’t healthy for us. If you feel troubled or challenged in a way that seems beyond your control, you might want to consider seeking professional mental health help, particularly if any of these signs are familiar to you:

 

Nothing is making you happy

You don’t think of yourself as an unhappy person — and you remember many happy times — but no matter what you do, recently nothing brings you pleasure or joy. Even activities or relationships that were once fulfilling don’t have that effect anymore and have given way to a sense of numbness.

If so, there is a strong chance you are suffering from depression. You might want to consider working with a therapist — whether through read more

It’s time to schedule self-care into your life


The more we sit at desks, compulsively scroll social media, and (perhaps) obsessively check the news, the farther away we get from our own needs as human beings — physically, mentally, socially, and emotionally.

But since we all can’t just move to a tropical island and scoop ice cream all day for a living, we should at least try to make time and space for small tactics that will help keep us balanced and happy, even when things in our lives and in the world around us can seem hectic.

Why self-care is crucial

Before we dispense some strategies, let’s just briefly take stock of how modern life, whether it’s in the office, at home, or on-the-go, has become a minefield for our mental and physical well-being.

The Mayo Clinic and many, many others have declared sitting to be “the new smoking.” And while that might sound a little
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The surprising power of your life story


As anyone who ever attended a high school reunion can attest, your personal identity is fluid. Hairstyles, sports allegiances, and even personalities change over time. (Cue that Simple Minds song Don’t You (Forget About Me).)

Evidence from my own yearbook includes Ryan, a sweet if wildly unmotivated friend who, at age 20, dropped out of college to be a ski bum in Colorado. Fast forward eight years, and Ryan is the CEO of a nonprofit startup dedicated to preserving ecological practices of indigenous communities in Andean South America. I spotted him in Palo Alto with a Bluetooth receiver behind an ear that he once reserved for storing clumsily hand-rolled cigarettes.

Ryan’s personal story is now a successful part of his company’s fundraising and branding efforts. He uses his evolution to demonstrate how apolitical weekend outdoorsmen can become activists. It perhaps goes without saying that his parents are especially fond of this
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Why learning new habits is better than perfecting old ones


I was pretty proud of myself after learning how to make chicken scallopini.

I had boldly decided that I wanted to learn how to do more in the kitchen than reheat frozen waffles and so when I came across a recipe that seemed like a challenge I decided to go for it. (It certainly helped that the recipe happened to involve delicious things like pasta, white wine, and lightly breaded chicken.)

I wrote out the instructions on a notecard and followed them closely, relishing the recipe’s technical steps like wrapping a chicken breast in parchment paper, flattening it with a wine bottle, and then dredging it in flour. As I watched the white wine sauce reduce in a hot pan, my mouth started watering with anticipation. The dish was an unequivocal hit, even earning praise from my neighbor who refuses to eat anything that isn’t deep fried.

I was so encouraged by my
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Instant Insight: Build success from frustration


It’s easy to think of success as the product of careful planning and thoughtful execution. And it is. But there is also an emotional component to any process, effort, or triumph. In other words, we don’t succeed simply because we are well-prepared; we also succeed because we are motivated.

Despite what we’re often told, the motivation to truly do something — whether it’s finishing a small task or working toward a profound change — can come from moments of great anger, annoyance, or disappointment. It’s how we use our frustrations and passions as fuel that makes all the difference.

With that inspiration in mind, we offer this week’s Instant Insight:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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3 mindsets for designing the life you want


This post comes from IDEO U, an online school where anyone can learn to solve anything creatively.

What if you approached your own life challenges with a sense of curiosity and creativity? What if there were tools and mindsets that could help you design and build the life you want?

Applying the design process to your life can help you determine what you want and how to create it. It provides a way to test out (or prototype) small immediate changes in your life rather than make drastic changes, get stuck at the starting line, or get paralyzed by the enormity of it all.

After years of seeing college students struggle to determine which direction to take their lives and hearing an outcry for open dialogue about this challenge, professors Bill Burnett and Dave Evans crafted a course at Stanford d.school on Designing Your Life. The course continues
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Excitement is the antidote to feeling nervous


Whether it’s public speaking or a date or even just a vacation, there are plenty of moments that make us nervous. We plot out everything that could go wrong, we worry ourselves into a bundle of nerves, and, as a result, sometimes we end up getting in the way of our own happiness and success.

But what if there were a simple shift in mindset that could turn all of the anxious energy into a force for good?

In studies conducted by Harvard Business School, researchers looked into how closely feelings of nervousness and anxiety connect to excitement. As it turns out, the link between the emotions is not only strong, but fluid. In this video, one writer, who has an intense phobia about karaoke, tries to conquer her fears by turning her worry into anticipation.

See how she does it below and do try this at home!

 

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One story that explains why personal success is more important than professional success


The ugly truth about how society is conditioned to view success — in degrees, dollars, promotions, likes, and favs — is that much of it is external and out of our control.

With hard work and some luck, for example, you might land the prestigious job of your dreams. But what if the industry changes or you end up with a terrible new boss?

This radical dose of reality is exactly what happened to Anthony Tjan. As he details in his book Good People, in the late 1990s, the entrepreneur worked tirelessly to build ZEFER, an internet services company that was poised to earn him tens of millions of dollars when the company went public.

But things didn’t turn out that way. “The day ZEFER intended to go public was the largest NASDAQ drop in its history to date,” he writes, “a slide that would only continue over the next few
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How to escape the Drama Triangle


As everyone knows, conflict is an unavoidable part of any relationship. But do you ever feel like drama follows you everywhere you go? It can be frustrating (and tiring) to be trapped in unnecessary, overblown struggles on a regular basis, be it at work or at home.

But frequently having to deal with sagas doesn’t mean you’re cursed. Nor does it mean you’re weak or doomed to have dysfunctional relationships forever. You’re just caught in the Drama
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Why the first thing you should do every day is make your bed


If you’re anything like us, the hardest part of starting your day is…well….starting it.

The allure of hitting snooze, checking email or social media, or just idly daydreaming can be magnetic or downright irresistible. And then, the next thing you know, you’re either running late or you’re probably a little less enthusiastic about the day ahead.

This doesn’t seem like a struggle you’d face if you were a Navy SEAL, but as it turns out, a Navy SEAL might just have the perfect antidote to this problem. In 2014, when Admiral William McRaven took the podium to deliver the commencement address at the University of Texas, he offered some sage advice about life that started with this recommendation: Make your bed every day. Watch below to see
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