3 ways to face change

June 8, 2012
"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." —Anaïs Nin

Change pushes us out of our comfort zone, which makes it hard to accept and respond to. Sometimes it’s so uncomfortable, we get stuck, and start acting like a reluctant adapter.
But change happens all the time — and it can be a catalyst for making life better, if we let it. To help offset the paralyzing effects of change, try these three exercises that rely on your gut instincts. As you check in with your gut more and more, you’ll begin to realize that you already know what to do when life throws a curveball—you just have to pay attention to it.

  1. Ask yourself if this change compromises who you are and what you stand for. Probably not. If it does, consider it a message that it’s time to make your own changes.
  2. Get your blueprint for change — with Unstuck Life CoursesTo get perspective, think of two or three big changes that have happened in your life. Did you resist the change when it first happened? Did your life continue to move forward despite the change? Did anything positive result from the change?
  3. Imagine you love the change (even though you don’t). List all of the reasons why it’s good for you. Set a timer to make sure you spend no more than two minutes on this. This ensures that you don’t overthink. Is there at least one item on your list that holds true, even though you’re resistant to the change?

Another way to get more comfortable with change is to practice. Try one or more small changes in your life and revel in the rewards.

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