How we get stuck as a Tunnel Visionary

When we get unstuck, it’s because we are running on all cylinders, namely the four fundamental ways that we participate in the world: See, Believe, Think, Act (SBTA).

SBTA is not a magic recipe for success, but the results of consciously engaging these aspects of our behavior can feel magical. And joyful. And very, very encouraging.

On the other hand, any time we’re feeling stuck, it’s because one or more of these behaviors needs to be adjusted—what we call a gap.

A Seeing Gap is when we view the world or a situation as one of restriction instead of possibility. We tend to use the words “can’t,” “won’t,” and “don’t” when describing circumstances. Obstacles appear immovable or unchangeable, blocking any ray of hope. And it may seem like we’re on an endless journey of more-of-the-same.

In these instances, we’re acting like a Tunnel Visionary. Our view is limited to what isn’t working.

• “They won’t ever consider me for a promotion at work.”
• “I can’t get myself to the gym so I’m not going to lose weight.”
• “I don’t want to be in this relationship, but I don’t want to hurt anyone either.”

To shift our perspective to one of possibility, we need to stray from the usual. It could be taking in new sights for inspiration. It might be looking at the same old thing, but from a new vantage point that sparks our imagination. There are all sorts of ways we can widen our lens on life. And when we do, the answers to how we might move ahead in our career or start slimming down or change a relationship become visible to us.

Try out any of these 9 tips that help us see our world as one of possibility.

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