Instant Insight: Be flexible about your stubbornness

Stubbornness is one of those words that gets a good rap and a bad rap. These days in particular, to be stubborn can mean “principled” or “determined” as easily as it can mean “difficult” or “inflexible.”

The important thing is that we don’t choose one definition over the other; stubbornness should never be a constant, especially if we’re just stubborn for its own sake. There is a better way to be in control of ourselves: To be flexible about being stubborn and to always think about what’s really worth taking a stand for. It’s the only way others will take us seriously when we do decide to be principled.

With that inspiration in mind, we offer this week’s Instant Insight:

Instant Insight: Be flexible about your stubbornness














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