Question: What do you risk when you ask for help?


We all want to be a rock star in what we pursue, and that appears to be a solo act. So if we ask for help we might have to share the stage. We might appear less competent or imperfect. Worse of all, someone might shine brighter than we do.

Those fears are real, but they’re not reality. The truth is, if you don’t get the help you need, you might not achieve your goal as well as you’d like — or at all. You lose the chance to learn, to be generous, to build comaraderie. But you do get to own the stress, 100 percent.

Unstuck’s “Call in the Cavalry” tool lets you figure out what kind of help you need. If you’re on your iPad, click to go directly to the tool (this won’t work if you’re using Unstuck on the web). Or download the free Unstuck iPad app here.

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