Seriously bored? Dig for purpose


There’s bored, like when you’re a kid.
You: “I’m bored.”
Your parent: “Then go clean your room.”
Instantly, divine intervention guides you to make an entertaining mess somewhere else in the house. Problem solved.

And then there’s seriously bored. It’s serious because it involves whatever takes up the lion’s share of your day or thoughts (job, housekeeping, another person). Most likely, you can’t just up and leave your responsibility, but the prospect of staying stuck in a rut as a Deflated Doer does give you the itch to run.

Well, don’t. At least, not yet. Instead, spend some time pondering the reason you put yourself in this position in the first place. In other words: What is your purpose behind what you’re doing?

“Why?” you may be thinking, perhaps with a sulk. “How’s that going to change anything?” To which we reply: It won’t change anything about your situation, but it could have a profound effect on your level of enthusiasm for what you’re doing. It could also direct you to move on from your situation. Don’t you want to find out which it will be?

It’s not complicated to define your purpose, but it takes thought, and usually more than one try. Answer the following 4 questions, step away for a while, and then review your answers. Can you dig a little deeper?

Thinking about your situation:

1. How much does this matter to me?

2. Why does this matter?

3. Which of my talents does this make use of?

4.  What do I hope to achieve?

Now fill in the blanks with your answers.

“This matters to me [answer 1] because [answer 2]. It uses my talent for [answer 3] and is a way to achieve [answer 4].”

If your completed sentence is mostly positive, you’re probably on the right track. To re-ignite your enthusiasm further, consider these 5 ways to get re-inspired.

If your completed sentence reads negatively, you may want to do something that is more meaningful to you.

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