Stuck moments: You are not alone

| April 16, 2012

Hitting a stuck moment can feel isolating. We might think “No one understands,” or “I’m the only one in this situation.” And as we sit there, stranded on our island of stuckness, it seems as if help will never arrive.

We’re here to tell you it isn’t so. Not only do we all get stuck all the time, but many of us get stuck in the same ways. It’s more than cold comfort, knowing that you’re not the only one. It’s reassurance that others have gone before you and worked on the same problem you face—so, yes, there is a way forward.

What’s got so many of us hung up? Here’s a generalized summary from Unstuck. To get past your stuck moment, download the free Unstuck app here.

Time is fleeting
Simply put, there just isn’t enough of it to do what we really want to do.

Jobs dominate lives
Many are looking for the right career, while others want more opportunities in the job they have. Lack of control in the workplace comes up often, as does feeling trapped in a job. The balance of career and personal life is a regular struggle. And a lot of people just plain hate their jobs.

Relationships aren’t on the mend
Romance (or lack of) dominates relationship issues. While many want to break it off, quite a few hesitate because they fear hurt feelings.  Countering these are the hopefuls who want to start or rekindle a liaison. Friendships are just as vexing: Some find it hard to make friends; others suspect their friends don’t like them. 

Money is a roadblock
Cash is tight all around. It keeps people in jobs they don’t like and stops others from starting their own business. “Underwater” is a commonly used word. Still, a number of us are looking for ways to save a few dollars.

Bored, bored, bored
Life is dull. At home. At work. Socially. In the classroom. You name it.

Procrastination prevails
When we want to be, we’re masters at putting off just about everything. Procrastination seems to come largely in two forms: not starting and not finishing. Lying in the middle is loads of dread about writing, exercising, eating right, working, studying, and housework. (See our 9 tips to overcome procrastination.)

Too many demands
Those of us who care for others are left with little or no time for ourselves.

Disorganization abounds
Clutter, mostly at home, is a hot button for lots of people. Some are faced with years of neglect, so they don’t know where to start. Others are frustrated by the continuing cycle of cleaning up clutter only to collect more.

Overwhelmed
Lots of areas make us feel like a deer in headlights, starting with life in general. Specifics include family needs, starting a new job, workload at the office, planning a wedding, keeping up with social media.

Life is puzzling
A good number of us don’t know what we want to do in life. Others want to do more. Similarly, many feel like their missing out on something in their lives. Which is kind of related to those who thought life would be different.

Fear stops us
Being afraid is at the heart of so many stuck moments, like fear of failing, public speaking, the unknown, making our feelings heard.

I can’t decide
Indecision comes in all sizes. Large: Whether to have another child. Who to marry. Medium: Get a PhD or MBA. Laptop or desktop. Small: What to do today. What to make for dinner.

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