Posts tagged: Anxiety

Excitement is the antidote to feeling nervous


Whether it’s public speaking or a date or even just a vacation, there are plenty of moments that make us nervous. We plot out everything that could go wrong, we worry ourselves into a bundle of nerves, and, as a result, sometimes we end up getting in the way of our own happiness and success.

But what if there were a simple shift in mindset that could turn all of the anxious energy into a force for good?

In studies conducted by Harvard Business School, researchers looked into how closely feelings of nervousness and anxiety connect to excitement. As it turns out, the link between the emotions is not only strong, but fluid. In this video, one writer, who has an intense phobia about karaoke, tries to conquer her fears by turning her worry into anticipation.

See how she does it below and do try this at home!

 

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What to do when you wake up in the middle of the night


Little kids aren’t the only ones suffering from nightmares. I wonder sometimes if it’s scarier as an adult, because the things keeping me awake at 3 a.m. are more possible than any of the stuff I used to imagine.

The real-life monsters that haunt me: losing my income, losing a loved one, making someone mad, making the wrong decision, and being alone — forever.

Sound familiar? When real-life monsters haunt you, here’s what to remember:

1. “Everything feels worse in the middle of the night.”

That’s what my mom would say when I would whimper beneath the covers in the middle of the night, too scared to move. Hoping she could save me. The moment I heard her rustling across the hall, I would start to feel better.

It’s surprisingly helpful to speak to myself in that same tender voice when my mind is spiraling into worst-case scenarios.

The phrase that works for me
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