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Baby Stucks: Santa Claus keeps coming to town


February 7, 2013
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Christmas was a whole new adventure this year, now that my little boy is old enough to be fully aware of Santa Claus, or more fittingly, the man who gives presents.

It started when we thought it would be okay to put the presents we had already received under tree. Of course, my son immediately spotted them and exclaimed, “Presents!”

With a coy glance to my husband, I thoughtfully explained, “Yes, these are gifts from Grandma and Grandpa and your aunt and uncle. They give gifts, too, for Christmas.”

“Okay.” [Pause.] “They’re from Santa! Santa came!”

“No, these are from your family.”

“Presents from Santa. Yaaaah!”

And in just five seconds, I realized presents = Santa. Let’s not overcomplicate it.

“Yes, you’re right. They’re from Santa.”

After wave one of gifts, my son set his sights on the next round of gift giving, talking eagerly about Christmas and Santa arriving with his sleigh. I wondered what he was
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Baby Stucks: For crying out loud


December 18, 2012
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I feel like some moms completely overuse the term “meltdown” to describe any situation when their child does not behave perfectly. It’s a bit overly dramatic, if you ask me. But sometimes, there’s no other way to describe it. Last week, there was a complete and utter meltdown in my family. Except it wasn’t my son — it was me.

I’ve been preparing myself for my grand return to work, and one of the biggest hurdles is the commute. Since moving to Manhattan, I always loved the ease and efficiency of the subway. That was before I had one kid strapped to my front and another strapped to a stroller. So I decided to do a test run by picking up my son from daycare with my daughter in tow.

I was already a bit frazzled before even getting on the subway. My son had decided to play hide and seek at
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Baby Stucks: Traveling in the time of parenthood


December 3, 2012
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My husband and I have always loved to travel, and we promised ourselves that having kids would not leave us stuck at home. With our first baby, we somehow managed to keep our vow, toting our little boy from place to place. As self-proclaimed super travelers, we thought adding a second kid into the mix would be no problem, so we went ahead and booked a slew of trips before our baby girl was even born.

Oh, ignorance is such bliss, isn’t it?

All of a sudden, our first trip was just days away and the reality hit. How were we going to get two kids, two strollers, two car seats, two pack n plays, plus 3 suitcases full of clothes, toiletries, shoes, and our own things to the airport? Oh, and did I mention we don’t have a car?

I felt like I had been hit by a ton of diapers. (Shoot!
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Baby Stucks: Managing through my fear of being a bad mom


November 26, 2012
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While I’m on maternity leave, we have still been sending our son to daycare. Officially, as good caring parents, we just didn’t want to break up his routine.  Honestly, I didn’t know if I could handle juggling both kids at the same time.

For the last two months, I’ve been spending my vacation — err, I mean maternity leave — enjoying time with my little baby while my husband drops off and picks up our son every day. Every day until last week, when daycare was closed and I was suddenly responsible for both kids.

I feel a bit ridiculous admitting this, but the idea of having both kids to myself for a full day totally scared me. I was scared that my son would run off and I would not be able to chase him with baby in tow. I was scared that the baby would be left to cry too
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Lessons heard (or how to get your kite out of a tree)


November 18, 2012
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A good friend of mine generously gave me a handful of his favorite children’s books, among them one titled “Stuck” by Oliver Jeffers. At first read, “Stuck” is a beautifully illustrated, silly tale about the absurd and nonsensical approach little Floyd takes to get his kite out of a tree. A few hundred reads later at the request of my son, I couldn’t help but uncover

 deeper messages about getting unstuck (blame it on my English degree). 

• You don’t have to go at it alone. 

• Focus on the solution — it might help you forget what problem you were trying to solve in the first place. 

• Maybe the completely absurd, nonsensical approach is exactly the one you should take.

• Oh, and don’t forget about the people who helped you along the way.

Thanks, Floyd.

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Baby Stucks: My birthday wish comes true — sort of


November 7, 2012
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You know those obnoxious people who are completely obsessed with their birthdays, planning for the next one the day after the last one? Well, that’s me. Hey, we’re all getting older regardless so why not milk the attention when you can get it?

This year, however, my tried-and-true celebration ideas felt wrong. The thought of going out for a wild night of shots at the bars, breast pump in tow, didn’t appeal. If I threw an event at home with the kids involved I knew it would turn into a glorified play date. I was craving a party with a theme other than Elmo. I wanted an occasion with great cocktails worthy of a pump and dump (as in breast milk). But it just didn’t seem possible this time.

After wallowing in self-pity and nostalgia over birthdays pasts, I realized I needed to embrace my new reality with a fresh perspective.  So
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Baby Stucks: I refuse to be unhappy!


November 5, 2012
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My husband, sweet man, spares me the challenge of reading the Economist cover to cover. Instead, he selects a few articles from each issue that he thinks I’d enjoy. Recently, he selected one entitled “Generation Xhausted,” which talks about how people are having children later. “The most gruelling part of child-rearing now coincides with the make-or-break phase of careers,” it says. True. I find myself in this same conundrum. But it also says I won’t be truly happy again until my 50s. I refuse to accept that!  

There’s got to be a better answer, don’t you think? I would love to hear your thoughts.

Next post: Sabrina figures out a way to celebrate her birthday in style.Previous post: The brunch, the belly, and the hostess.  

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Baby Stucks: The brunch, the belly, and the hostess


October 26, 2012
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We’re making our way to our table for brunch on Sunday, my husband carrying our two-year-old and me pushing the stroller with the baby, when the hostess exclaims, “Oh congratulations! A son, a baby … and another one on the way?” We both look down at the pooch that pops out where my formerly flat stomach used to be. I slowly look back up: “Nope, just the two kids,” quickly adding, “the baby is only a couple weeks old.”

Embarrassment all round.

Because my recent labor wasn’t nearly as intense as the first pregnancy, I assumed I could bounce back to my normal body shape much faster — but the only thing bouncing these days is my jiggly belly every time I give it a little poke. This limits my wardrobe choices considerably. I alternate between empire-waisted maternity tops draped over belly-banded bottoms (that happen to slide down my butt like
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Baby Stucks: What to expect when you’re on maternity leave


October 22, 2012
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I haven’t quite pulled the plug on work-Sabrina, even though maternity-Sabrina took over in a hurry when

my water broke at the office

. So now I find myself in this strange place where I keep one toe (okay, maybe a whole foot) involved with work, while the rest of me seeks a sense of accomplishment from my new-Mom responsibilities.

I think I was expected to turn off all office thoughts as easily as twisting a faucet once the baby was born — but it’s not like I’m on a remote island without wifi, or my language skills have been reduced to single syllables. Besides, what else is there to do during a 2 a.m. feeding other than take a quick peek to see what’s going on with that project I couldn’t quite complete?

You might be thinking I’m a control freak, but that’s not it. I know my coworkers can survive
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Baby Stucks: Lesson from a one-day old


October 15, 2012
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I had 45 minutes left on my workday when POP! My water broke! In the middle of my open-floor-plan office!  In front of colleagues! And the FedEx guy!

Fast forward to the hospital, where I was put in triage to await a C-section for my

breech-bound baby

. There were two people ahead of me, so I knew I was in store for a good five- to six-hour interlude — except no one told my baby.

I still had at least three hours to wait when the contractions started. An hour later, my labor pains at full force, I felt the urge to puuuuuuusssssh!

Instantly, I was surrounded by what felt like half the hospital staff. As they wheeled me down the hall at record speed, my impatient babe’s foot began pushing toward the exit. Chaos erupts, as one doctor preps me for the next push, another commands a C-section “stat!” and I lie,
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