Posts tagged: Gratitude

How to squeeze your favorite people back into your life

Why do we ignore people who matter the most to us? You know, the friend or cousin or former teammate who really gets us. Who we can say and do anything with. Who we haven’t connected with in a long time.

You might chalk it up to busyness, but it really comes down to bonds. We are comfortably certain that time out of touch will not fray our affection in the long run. And we’re usually right. Part of a superstrong relationship is that we don’t have to constantly nurture it. The love will always be there. And when we do connect, it is soulfully satisfying. And sustaining. Or is it?

For a minute, forget the people you need to please or impress. Forget your pile of responsibilities. Instead, remember those deep connections — both the memories and the vague plans for future connection.

Is it enough, these momentary touches? How much finer
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Get your gratitude glow on

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When prompted to list the things we’re grateful for, it’s easy to give the same answers every time:

“My family”
“My health”
“My family’s health”

These things are undoubtedly important — we should be grateful for them. But that pesky word, “should,” can be telling. Anything with a “should” attached to it can feel heavy. Pure gratitude, on the other hand, feels light — like a warm glow spreading through you.

Plus, when we recite the same list of things we’re thankful for over and over again, our authentic feelings of gratitude can get stale.

So how can we tap into gratitude in a way that feels fresh each time?

We’ve put together a printable exercise that helps you do just that. (Click the link or the image below to print the exercise.)

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A generous way to make life better

A generous way to make life better

One of the best things about living life with a generous spirit is how easy it is. And how cost-effective — it’s really just the price of a kind intention. For instance…

Someone enters the living room where you’re sitting on the couch engrossed in conversation or “Game of Thrones.” Your instinct is to scoot over so the new person can sit and join in. That’s an act of generosity — making room for other people.

It’s a way of responding to our fellow human beings that says: I accept you, you can trust me, let’s get along. And, well, things only get better from there.

At the core of generous gestures — inviting an opinion, sharing an insight, forgiving a mistake — is a decidedly uncompetitive attitude. This is where it can get a little tricky, because we’re competitive by nature.

But what if we decided there’s room for all of us? If,
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7 simple ways to pay it forward

If intentionally doing something thoughtful were a daily requirement, the resulting happiness could change your corner of the world. In addition to benefiting the recipient, the act of paying it forward (extending the goodwill in our life to someone else’s) increases our sense of well-being — because we know we did something that mattered. The size of the gesture is
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Gratitude is great — paying it forward is even better

We’re in the season of gratitude, and thank goodness for that.

The air’s turned colder and it’s dark by 4 pm, giving us sufficient fodder for complaints (on top of our usual stuff). So remembering to get a little grateful really does helps. If we’re busy reflecting on the love we feel for mashed potatoes, there’s no room to hate on a 3:54 sunset. It’s replacement thinking; it doesn’t make the bad stuff go away, but it makes it less important.

Plus, practicing gratitude is easy. All we have to do is lean back and think about what’s good in our life. It brings on a sense of contentment to beat the band. What could be better than that?

Paying it forward.

Paying it forward matches gratitude (it makes us happy) and multiplies it (it makes other people happy and perpetuates the happiness).

Just so there’s no confusion, let’s define what the phrase means. Paying it forward
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Finding: The gratitude cure

You’ve got to accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
Latch on to the affirmative
Don’t mess with Mister In-Between

Okay, uplifting song lyrics can sound like cold comfort when we find ourselves on a hard road, or when unexpected obstacles appear on the path toward our goals. But researchers in four separate studies show that the physiological benefits of “latching on to the affirmative” are real. Just spending a few minutes each night jotting down things that you’re grateful for can lead to a 25% increase in happiness, better sleep, fewer health complaints, and a greater tendency to be generous toward others.

The trick is to surface things that you’re truly grateful for. Faking gratitude won’t achieve these amazing benefits. Try noting — and sharing — things you like about yourself, your friends, your job, your spouse, or even a stranger. Here are 40 ways to get
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Why gratitude makes life better + 40 ways to get started


There’s not a single downside to gratitude — except that it’s easy to ignore.

When put into practice, gratitude creates a virtuous circle. It fosters contentment, joy, respect, and connection to our world and the people in it. You might say it’s a recipe for happiness.

Gratitude makes us feel good inside. And when we share it, other people feel good inside. And you know what happens then: The feel-good-insiders send their goodwill to more people, who in turn start feeling good inside. Good feelings boomerang everywhere.

Now if that sounds too absurdly optimistic, consider this: Free-flowing gratitude can help you get unstuck. “Feeling good lubricates mental efficiency, making people better at understanding information and using decision rules in complex judgments,” writes psychologist Daniel Goleman in his book Primal Leadership. Translation: It makes you smarter.

The rub is, we can’t just hit-and-run with gratitude — you know, give a little to get a
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Unstuck is about balancing your viewpoint

We’re always amazed at how much better life seems when we take time to appreciate a kindness or a person or a lucky break. Seems a simple thing to do, yet gratitude easily gets lost in the shuffle of life — to our detriment. At Unstuck, we’re grateful for how well the app was received when it launched. We’re grateful for all the people who strive to make their lives better — it benefits everyone. We’re grateful that so many have found the time to reach out to us with praise or a suggestion or even a complaint. We could go on, but maybe it’s your turn. Here are 9 tips to help make gratitude a regular part of
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Unstuck is about letting go

It feels good sometimes to hold a grudge against someone. To burrow our way deep down into resentment and run a continuous loop of wrongdoing — reinforcing our outrage or hurt or sadness. Think about all the energy that goes into that. And even more energy if you harbor a revenge fantasy or two. Can you flip it? Can you redirect that passion and creativity into repaying a kindness? It will get you
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