Posts tagged: Habits

Why are we afraid of change? Examining the allure of habit

| August 29, 2016

This is part three in our series exploring our fear of change.

“Lizards don’t learn very much,” writes neuroscientist Marc Lewis in his book, “The Biology of Desire.” “Their repertoire of skills is innate.”

By contrast, mammals have brains that “are designed for learning — they are designed to change — in sync with their environments.” We humans have evolved to adapt to cold weather, to fashion new tools, to adventure to new lands.

So why is change so hard for us, when we are, apparently, so used to it? read more

I want to stop checking social media, but I can’t

| June 20, 2016
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It’s 11 p.m., and I can’t stop scrolling through Facebook on my iPhone.

My bedroom is dark. I know better than this. I should be reading, or meditating, or stretching — something relaxing and screen-free before bed.

Instead, I’m scrolling. My thumbs are sore from typing. I want to stop, but I can’t.

Eventually, I snap out of the trance. It takes a lot of willpower, but I force myself to put down my phone. I start to tune in to how tired I am, and as my head touches the pillow, I wonder at the power of a little device to get between me and the rest that I so sorely need.

I’m not alone. And it’s no accident: social media is engineered to be addictive. Some therapists are even offering treatment for social media addiction — and as journalist Sarah Kessler found, our issues with social media are often a read more

Question: What could you do less of?

| January 16, 2014

Sometimes we hang onto habits because they’re habits, not because they help us all that much. What’s one habit that could use a downsizing? In return for giving it the slip, you’ll get time and energy, both of them priceless.

Unstuck’s “Shake Up Your Routine” tool can help you pinpoint the habit to toss. If you’re on your iPad, click to go directly to the tool (this won’t work if you’re using Unstuck on the web). Or download the free Unstuck iPad app read more