Posts tagged: Instant insight

Instant Insight: Let the rules follow you

Breaking the rules is generally frowned upon. And in plenty of instances, it’s understandable. But what about the rules we set for ourselves? Do the things we promised we’d never do (or always do) apply to every situation? What about our beliefs?

The truth is that in order to be capable of change and growth sometimes we have take our preconceived notions and make a conscious effort to smash them to bits. We do this by listening carefully to our instincts and by asking good questions.

With that inspiration in mind, we offer this week’s Instant
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Instant Insight: Help out whenever you can

We tend to think of good deeds in important, but grandiose contexts — volunteering in soup kitchens, donating to charity, giving out kidneys. But to help out also can and should also mean performing small acts of kindness in ordinary and everyday moments.

Everyone from our co-workers and neighbors to strangers and fellow commuters can use help, even if it’s just the smallest gesture or show of support. All the little things add up to something bigger than
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Instant Insight: Be flexible about your stubbornness

Stubbornness is one of those words that gets a good rap and a bad rap. These days in particular, to be stubborn can mean “principled” or “determined” as easily as it can mean “difficult” or “inflexible.”

The important thing is that we don’t choose one definition over the other; stubbornness should never be a constant, especially if we’re just stubborn for its own sake. There is a better way to be in control of ourselves: To be flexible about being stubborn and to always think about what’s really worth taking a stand for. It’s the only way others will take us seriously when we do decide to be
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Instant Insight: Success isn’t for its own sake

Success is something that we often wish for our friends, our family, and ourselves. Our high school yearbooks are filled with messages like Best wishes! and Good luck! because the specific goals don’t usually exist yet.

But success as an idea has to be meaningfully defined. Whether that’s saving lives, opening your own business, reading Shakespeare, learning cat portraiture, or raising children that are polite, we should strive to be successful in a way that reflects who we are and what makes us proud of our efforts. Anything else, well, really isn’t
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Instant Insight: The real things don’t change

As we grow, develop, succeed, meet new people, or take on different challenges, it’s important to remain anchored to a few, real, central principles.

Some of these truths are highly personal and based on our experiences as well as the lessons we’ve learned along the way. Others are a bit more universal and part of a greater human understanding — being kind to people, for example, is important, but so is recognizing what we individually gain from practicing kindness every single time that we
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