Posts tagged: Reluctant Adapter

Unstuck in Action: Career-change crisis

Name: Ariel Finkelstein

Age:  30

Location: Riverdale in the Bronx, by way of Louisville, Kentucky.

Current job: Digital media executive recruiter at AC Lion, NYC.

Previous job: Senior administrator at a nonprofit.

Passionate about: Time with my family, NY sports, craft beers, nature, traveling, and Education Technology.

How did you hear about the Unstuck app?“I read about it in December in TechCrunch and I said ‘I’ve got to have it!’ ”

What was your stuck moment?“I worked in nonprofit for a good nine years alongside individuals with developmental and intellectual disabilities, and I loved it for a long time. I went from direct care to manager to a senior admin role. It was the only career I knew.

“But when I became a senior admin, I realized I wasn’t happy. I love helping people with my own hands and I was detached from that. But I had no clue what I wanted to change to. Zero
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How we get stuck as a Reluctant Adapter

Change happens. When we make it happen, we say change is good. When change happens to us, it can be another story entirely.

Let’s say your boss, with whom you have a good working relationship, gives notice. Are you stunned? Probably. Then, when the shock wears off, fear creeps in.  Who will replace him? What if it’s Jean, who doesn’t like me? Will the new boss value what I do? What if I apply for the job and get turned down? Will I lose my job?

All of these thoughts are natural — you’re assessing an unexpected situation. The rub comes when we keep assessing, over and over, letting our fears spin us into a stuck state. In this moment, we’re acting like a reluctant adapter. And what we’re experiencing is a gap in what we believe.

Going back to the scary old boss-new boss moment, we’re stuck because we can’t land on
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3 ways to face change

"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." —Anaïs Nin

Change pushes us out of our comfort zone, which makes it hard to accept and respond to. Sometimes it’s so uncomfortable, we get stuck, and start acting like a reluctant adapter.

But change happens all the time — and it can be a catalyst for making life better, if we let it. To help offset the paralyzing effects of change, try these three exercises that rely on your gut instincts. As you check in with your gut more and more, you’ll begin to realize that you already know what to do when life throws a curveball—you just have to pay attention to it.

  1. Ask yourself if this change compromises who you are and what you stand for. Probably not. If it does, consider it a message that it’s time to make your own changes.
  2. To get perspective, think of two or three big changes that have happened in your
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25 small changes that can make life better

Divorce! Job loss! How yoga helped me release the grief

If change is a particular sticking point for you, try practicing it on your own terms. Start small with just one of these ideas, and notice the positive affect it has on your life. Then try another one. You may discover that adjustment to new ways of doing things isn’t as bad as you imagined. Then brag a little. You’ve earned it.

Good for your health

  1. Drink more heart-healthy resveratrol by switching from white wine to red wine.
  2. Cut down on carbs by ordering thin-crust pizza instead of regular or thick crust.
  3. Go for a walk 2 to 3 times a week. Or walk and talk during a meeting.
  4. Cut calories by drinking water instead of soda.
  5. Eat breakfast everyday to help lose weight.
  6. Drink tea for heart health, cancer prevention, and more healthy benefits.

Good for your environment

  1. Bring reusable shopping bags to the store.
  2. If you have plastic shopping bags, reuse them instead of throwing
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Evan Williams’s Stuck Moment as a Reluctant Adapter

His stuck moment: After selling the Blogger application to Google, Williams started Odeo, a podcast syndication service. But then Apple added podcasts to its iTunes store, changing the competitive landscape.

He gut-checks his belief: Williams knew that Odeo’s future looked bleak, so he shifted focus by co-founding Obvious Corp. with Biz Stone and selling Odeo. 

Unstuck result: One of Obvious Corp.’s projects, Twitter, became a widespread digital communication tool, affecting everything from the smallest scale human drama to world-altering events. 

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Randy Pausch’s Stuck Moment as a Reluctant Adapter

His stuck moment: Pausch was at the height of his teaching career at Carnegie Mellon University when he received a terminal cancer diagnosis, with three to six months of good health left. 

He gut-checks his belief: To deal with this life-altering news, he called upon what he did best: teach. Pausch conducted a “Last Lecture” about achieving your childhood dreams. 

Unstuck result: Just before his death, a book based on his speech became a New York Times bestseller. 

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Muhammad Ali’s Stuck Moment as a Reluctant Adapter

His stuck moment: As a practicing member of the Nation of Islam, Ali was against the war in Vietnam when he received a draft notice in 1967. Refusal to serve meant a five-year prison sentence, $100,000 fine, losing his heavyweight championship title, and suspension from boxing.

He gut-checks his belief: He showed up for his scheduled Army induction but refused to step forward when his name was called. After the fourth unanswered call, he was arrested.

Unstuck result: Four years after his arrest and conviction, the Supreme Court reversed the ruling. In 1974, he regained his title by defeating reigning champion George Foreman.

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