Posts tagged: Resilience

How to cope after a tragedy strikes


In the aftermath of a tragic event, you may feel upended. You’re not alone in trying to wrap your head around the senseless events of late, like devastating hurricanes, violence, and heightened tensions.

Humans crave certainty, so whenever a tragedy happens, we feel a loss of control. Your mind may run through unanswerable questions and what-ifs like “What would I have done if were there?” or “How must the grieving families feel?” The heartbreak is unimaginable. You may feel helpless or unsafe.

If you’re struggling right now, it’s important to process your reaction. It won’t be an overnight process, but here are some tips to cope so you can refocus and find balance again:  

Ride the emotional wave of a tragedy

Watching and hearing about suffering triggers empathy. We can all relate to experiencing pain and loss; emotions like shock, confusion, and fear can result after tragic events. This is known
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How to make yourself more resilient


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How is it that some people try again and again, while others get perpetually stuck at the first roadblock? The difference is resilience — an adaptive trait that enables us to bounce back when faced with difficulties.

Resilience doesn’t mean we escape feelings of pain and hardship, but rather meet those uncomfortable feelings so we can work through stressful situations. Here are some attributes of a resilient spirit:

  • An ability to bounce back after setback
  • A more positive outlook on life
  • Heightened problem-solving abilities
  • Greater decisiveness in day-to-day actions
  • An ability to manage strong feelings and stress with a clear mind
  • The confidence to try new things without worrying about every little detail that could go wrong.

A recent study links  resilience with physical benefits like a stronger immune system  and better cardiovascular health.  In other words, the less time spent
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Most likely to succeed? It comes down to grit


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That person’s got what it takes to succeed.

What is the “it”? Smarts? Vision? Creativity? Those are great qualities, but they can’t make a full impact without another ingredient: determination to get things done — in a word, grit.

Grit keeps us going when things get tough. It pushes us toward the finish line when we’re too far away to see it. When we get stuck, grit insists there has to be another way.

Psychologists have recently found that the grittier a person is, the likelier they are to succeed. The connection is so strong that grit is a better predictor of success than raw talent or high IQ.*

Whether or not you’re naturally gritty, it’s the kind of mettle you can develop. It comes down to believing that change — in your abilities and circumstances — is always possible through your own actions.

This is what goes on in a gritty frame of mind:


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How to keep going when you really don’t want to


In the days after the 9/11 attack on the World Trade Center, many of us focused on what was missing. The New York City skyline felt bare. The world felt altered. And, in the quiet Brooklyn neighborhood of Prospect Heights, an out-of-work actor named Delissa Reynolds sought comfort in the ways she knew best — food, friends, a sense of belonging.

“It was a very tender time,” says Delissa. “People in the neighborhood really drew in together. We’d have weekend gatherings, usually at my house, where anyone could come to hang out, sometimes just over rice and beans.”

These “Sunday dinners” helped transform the experience of loss into a celebration of togetherness. And, for Delissa, they became the spark for Bar Sepia, a pioneering neighborhood bar and restaurant she’d open three years later. Next month, her dream project turns 11 — a milestone unimaginable back in those “tender”
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