Self-reflection can help you live a life aligned with your goals and values, but it can also leave you stuck in self-blame and obsessing about failures.
Like learning a new exercise, you might need to adjust your technique so you build strength instead of injuring yourself.
Hazard: Self-criticism and judgment
Alternatives: Take the perspective of a neutral observer to ask what’s behind your actions, forgive yourself
“If it is done poorly, without awareness, we will go into self-judgment,” said Gary van Warmerdam of PathwayToHappiness.com. “This is in fact what a lot of people think self-reflection is. They look at what they did that day or how they procrastinated and they judge themselves as lazy, unfocused, or wasteful. This kind of beating oneself up emotionally is not self-reflection.”
“Real self-reflection avoids the self-judgment about what we find. This requires a mindfulness state of a neutral observer,” Warmerdam said. “In that state of awareness we can