Posts tagged: work

One story that explains why personal success is more important than professional success


The ugly truth about how society is conditioned to view success — in degrees, dollars, promotions, likes, and favs — is that much of it is external and out of our control.

With hard work and some luck, for example, you might land the prestigious job of your dreams. But what if the industry changes or you end up with a terrible new boss?

This radical dose of reality is exactly what happened to Anthony Tjan. As he details in his book Good People, in the late 1990s, the entrepreneur worked tirelessly to build ZEFER, an internet services company that was poised to earn him tens of millions of dollars when the company went public.

But things didn’t turn out that way. “The day ZEFER intended to go public was the largest NASDAQ drop in its history to date,” he writes, “a slide that would only continue over the next few
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How to make the perfect soundtrack for your life


Planning weddings can be stressful, and one of the most fraught parts of planning my own recent wedding was choosing which song would play during our first dance. (We eventually went with “Razor Love” by Neil Young). 

That’s because music is important. Even in much lower stakes scenarios than weddings, music simultaneously sets the mood and communicates the significance of whatever’s happening. The wrong music can make a task impossible — imagine trying to fall asleep to heavy metal — while the right song at the right time can make a moment magical and a party come alive.

So that all said, how should you go about DJing your day? How should your soundtrack change to suit all of your diverse activities?

Waking up

In my own life, I’m what’s not always affectionately referred to as a “morning person.” I generally greet the day with a smile on my face (so long as I
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How to battle impostor syndrome


In my practice as a coach and social worker, the most common confession clients share is that they think they’re a failure or a fraud. “Why are other people so self-assured while I struggle with constantly feeling inadequate?” they think.

This feeling of inadequacy followed one of my clients, Mandi, to work and was beginning to hold her back in her career. By all outward standards, Mandi is successful. She has multiple college degrees, a well-paying job, and was recently promoted to a management position.  

Yet nearly every day she goes to battle with her inner critic, the voice in her head that says she’s not good enough or smart enough. She worries that someday soon she’ll finally be exposed as unqualified for her job. In an attempt to control her fear, she’ll stay up all night perfecting projects before submitting them. Even though her team praises her work, Mandi is
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Why are mental health days such a big deal?


It all started with an email from Madalyn Parker, a web developer in Michigan. “I’m taking today and tomorrow to focus on my mental health,” Parker recently wrote to a few members of her office. “Hopefully I’ll be back next week refreshed and back to 100%.”

Here’s how Ben Congleton, her boss and the company’s CEO, replied:

 

Hey Madalyn, I just wanted to personally thank you for sending emails like this. Every time you do, I use it as a reminder of the importance of using sick days for mental health – I can’t believe this is not standard practice at all organizations. You are an example to us all, and help cut through the stigma so we can all bring our whole selves to work.

Depending on where you live or what you do, this correspondence might not seem like anything remarkable. However, after Parker tweeted
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