Unstuck in Action: Gaining insight into a child’s mind

We’re delighted at the different ways people are using the Unstuck app—witnessing human ingenuity at its best! And we want to share. In this first profile of how people are positively applying the app to their lives, we introduce Sara Winter, mother and entrepreneur.

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Name: Sara Winter

Age: 38

Location: Toronto

Occupation: Day job is a classroom aide, working with autistic kids. She also founded Squag.com. “Squag is a social space for kids on the autism spectrum. It’s a beautiful and visual place where kids can communicate with parents, peers, and themselves.”

Interests: Learning (“TED Talks is my favorite thing to do online”), theater, dance, neurophysiology.

How did you hear about the Unstuck app?
“On Twitter. It seems superficial, but I have made the most intimate connections on Twitter. The name [Unstuck] got me right away.”

What are your thoughts after using the app?
“When I saw the design, to me it said ‘You are welcome here. You will be able to use me.’ Who doesn’t get stuck? It’s the right balance of lightheartedness and real meaning.”

How do you use Unstuck?
“I use it with my son [who has ADHD]. As a parent, we talk about stuckness all the time. What happens with a kid who is stuck? You get into a power war. The best thing to do is get stuck with them. Find out why they are spinning their wheels, and mirror back to help get it out of them.”

How do you know when you’re stuck?
“I can feel it in my body. I’m agitated. I snap at people. I’m harder on my kids, harder on my husband. I keep asking the same question over and over.”

What do you start or stop doing?
“Therapy. Connected Parenting. It’s the best money I’ve ever spent. It’s not psychoanalysis. It’s about what’s happening in your house, how to address it and move forward. To have an app that gets it but is lighthearted and fun confirms therapy.”

What’s it like for you to get unstuck?
“It’s getting out of your head into action. Instead of ruminating and thinking about it, you take small steps toward what needs to be done. It’s very liberating.”

What is your POV on technology making lives better?
“We’re moving into a space where technology can be used for health. For mindfulness. It might bring in people who are intimidated by self-analysis. You can reach so many people. You can get the conversation going.

What kinds of uses do you see for the app?
“Teenagers with obsessive thoughts, such as OCD, ADHD, or anyone having anxiety.”

If I could change one thing about Unstuck, it would be:
“I would love to see a kid’s version. That would be an addition. For a change, as I start to learn how the app works, my answers are going to change—I’m going to try to outsmart it, so I don’t know if my answers are going to be as honest. It would be great if there were messaging that said, ‘Sara, you can be honest.’”

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