Unstuck is about letting go


It feels good sometimes to hold a grudge against someone. To burrow our way deep down into resentment and run a continuous loop of wrongdoing — reinforcing our outrage or hurt or sadness. Think about all the energy that goes into that. And even more energy if you harbor a revenge fantasy or two. Can you flip it? Can you redirect that passion and creativity into repaying a kindness? It will get you unstuck.

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