What to do after tragedy strikes

April 16, 2013

From an article by Deepak Chopra on CNN.com on how to deal with the aftermath of tragedy. Whether it’s yesterday’s bombing at the Boston Marathon or the shooting in Newtown, CT, we need to help ourselves heal.

Hold each other in loving awareness.

Speak gently.

Resist viewing negative images over and over.

Walk away when the conversation contains negativity.

Keep your life as structured as possible — This is especially true when dealing with children in the aftermath of tragedy.

Try not to be alone — Eat meals as a family, allow friends to offer consolation even when being around others is painful.

Forgive yourself when you feel like a victim, but take steps to grow out of victim thinking.

Allow for someone else’s point of view. It is difficult to express inner pain, and we all do it imperfectly. What may seem like anger and frustration from others is often the best they can do.

Because it reaches so deep, your sense of suffering may be subtle, like a gray fog rather than a sharp physical wound. To truly judge how healing is progressing, it is important to do more than regain everyday normality.

Become involved in your own healing, let time be your ally, and go as deeply as you can into the reservoir of peace that lies inside you.